Do Not Let The Sun Go Down On Your Anger

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Many marriages are in danger today.

When a spouse says they do not love you anymore it is because they have been hurt by their spouse. K, I get that. Been there done that.

But, in my opinion, a lot of that hurt is self inflicted though. And here is why. You are hurt by your spouse, for whatever reason..sexual sin, failure to live up to your expectations..whatever it doesn’t matter. Your feeling anger and resentment and building your walls, while your spouse is more than likely recovering from something you did to hurt them. Again doesn’t matter.

What matters is that you let the sun go down on your anger. Instead of saying honey, I’m sorry I screwed up..will you forgive me?… you allowed those feelings to fester in your heart and the longer you allow that to happen the worse it gets.

As husband and wife, we must work together to make the marriage work. It takes patience, integrity, forgiveness and the love of Christ…daily.

We can not allow the enemy a foothold in the door of our marriages. Seek forgiveness daily from your spouse. Before you pray at night ask your spouse if there was anything I did today that hurt you. Then apologize, so I AM sorry, will you forgive me.

The Hurting…

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For every bad seed the devil whispers in our ear whether by someone or our own thoughts….God says trust in me.

For every bit of joy the devil is trying to steal from us…God says trust in me.

The devil is a thief and a liar. God is holy and sovereign.

I am at a cross road in my life. Do I continue to fight or do I allow the devil to win..yet again in my life.

I know I will always make mistakes, I will always hurt someone…somehow, and I will always let people down. I also know that my righteousness will not be complete until I get to glory.

I have had a lot pain in my life in my 48 years and a lot of it came by my own actions and choices, though seemingly right in my own head at the time. I know that the pain hurts, especially this one. This wound is deep.


But I have also had a lot of good times too.
But I choose to trust God until the day he does call me home. His word say ALL things work together for the good, for those called according to His purpose. And every believer is called for His purpose And His glory no matter our station in life.

Yes, I am hurting. But I will be ok. And one day I will be better.

God bless guys. I love you all.
Stu

Looking For Love In All The Wrong Places

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​There are so many people who suffer from a void in their life. They don’t realize what that void is, yet they try filling it with everything but what is needed.

Allow me to share my thoughts on the things we try to fill that void with.

 
Alcohol: Many take their first drink at the request of a friend or loved because they are suffering from something in their life that has left them hurting and feeling empty. So they take that drink thinking it will help….it doesn’t. Once you quit that drinking session and come out of your stupor that hole, that hurt, that problem is still there. Usually worse because you may have done something you regret while drinking.

 
There might be many who would love to debate this but there is nothing wrong with a drink. The Bible says this in Ephesians 5:18 And be not drunk with wine, in which is excess. Most don’t look at the second part of the verse. Having a drink occasionally is not a bad thing…IF you are living the second part of that verse…but be filled with the Spirit.

 
To me, personally, if you can not go a day without drinking some form of alcohol you are an addict.

 
Drugs: Same as above its just by the time you decide Oh God I’m screwed up you have probably lost your job, family, wife and kids, respect and honor.

 
Sex: This one of course is debatable but please remember these are my thoughts.

There are many women and men who use their bodies as a way to find love. And it can be a heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual or trisexual (meaning they will try any type of sex) encounter. Doesn’t matter they are trying desperately to fill a void in their heart. As the ole saying goes “Looking for love in all the wrong places.” And unfortunately, yes, they can become addicted to actual act of sex.

 
Porn: Does not matter whether it is on paper, on a phone, on a computer or a video that person is still trying to fill a void. But as with drugs it can become an addiction. And it is THE hardest one to overcome because you can actually avoid alcohol and drugs. You can’t avoid flesh…its everywhere! And advertised everywhere. And for the people who are bisexual it is even harder to overcome.

 
Marriage: Yes, I am going here. There are a lot of people who use marriage as a fix all in their life. Thinking if they get married that person will help them overcome the lonely, hurting and sadness in their lives. Once they realize that is not the case they divorce and head to the next one…vicious cycle for some. I have some friends that have been married 5 times.

 
Here is the thing folks. Alcohol will NOT fill that void in your life! Sex will NOT fill that void in your life! Drugs will NOT fill that void in your life! Porn will NOT fill that void in your life! Marriage will NOT fill that void in your life!

 
The only thing that CAN fill that void in your life is JESUS. Ask Him into you heart today and He will fill that void and you will finally have that love and peace you have been searching for. You want freedom from the addictions you have encountered looking for love give your heart to Jesus! 

Stop looking for love in all the wrong places and look to the One who created you…GOD, who loved you so much that He sent His Son to this earth just to die for you. Jesus died a sacrificial death so you can have a relationship with God. Won’t you please accept that gift of love today?

If you claim Christ but yet feel lost in your marriage. I say this. Your trust and fulfillment should be placed in Christ, not your spouse.
Divorce happens when we, as spouses, take our eyes off of Christ and place them on our spouse.

God Bless,

Stu

Dirty Laundry: Time To Clean

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Have you ever really cleaned a closet? I mean taking everything out and reorganizing everything as you go. I personally have. And I will tell you it’s a chore and a blessing at times to. There are a lot of things that get thrown into a closet. There are boxes in there that hold a lot of memories and while cleaning you just have to look into those boxes and remember..sometimes alone and sometimes it’s “Hey honey, come check this out!” And then after sharing the memories you put it right back where it was and close the lid. Maybe you cried, maybe you didn’t. I usually do whether it is in joy or sadness.
We would love to have everyone look into our closet and see freshly ironed shirts and pants. We like for them to look into our shirt drawer and see them neatly folded as well.
That would be perfect! But this world is a fallen mess! And our closets look nothing like that picture you just envisioned while reading the note above. Life sometimes is not pretty. Sometimes life hurts and we take our emotional clothing and just throw it in the closet, thinking it will go away or clean itself. 
They won’t! They will stay right there until you take it out, shake it off, put in through the washer..basically deal with it. You have to deal with the dirty laundry sometimes. And it hurts everytime you uncover another one. 
The cool thing about marriage is that you have someone who is willing to go through the closet of your life with you! And you know why? They love you and whatever hurts you hurts them. You are one. They want you to heal!
It really is time to clean the closets of our lives. That ole shirt we threw in the corner needs to be taken out. You grab one sleeve and and ask you spouse to grab the other. Shake it! Get the dust off and examine it. Together look at it and find that dirty spot that made you throw it the closet in the first place. Share the memories of that stain. Remember everything that affects you affects your spouse. Then pray together to find a way to wash the stain out. It may take several washings cuz there could another stain under the first one. 
And when it comes out of the dryer hang it with the “clean” shirts as a reminder of the healing that took place. After all we have the best detergent in the universe…the soul cleansing blood of the lamb.

Point To You

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This song so represents me. For so long I struggled with forgiving myself. I have had a ton of regrets. I needed a miracle in my life.

Most of you know my story with porn, drinking, resentment issues as well as my anger issues. In order to find who I, Stuart, truly was I had to do the only thing I knew that would bring about change. I surrendered my life to God.

It is only by the grace of God and many, many prayers that porn is out of my life. My drinking binges are gone though I will have A beer occasionally. Do I still harbor some resentment? Yes I do. Do I still have anger issues? Heck yeah! But I now step back and think before I let my tongue get me in trouble.

I have sought forgiveness for those I have wronged in the past. Well…as many as I can remember. I have forgiven those who have hurt me as well. A change has taken place in my life. Praise God I am a different man than I use to be.

Maybe that is why God called me to help those who are addicted to things that hurt them. I have been through so much crap that I can relate to just about anything someone throws at me.

For God’s life changing miracle I want to point others to Him. I want people to know that they are not alone, for I have suffered depression, suicidal thoughts, porn addiction, among other things. I want people to know that there IS a way out and a way to stop. And it is by surrendering to God.

God is still working miracles today by changing countless lives. He does it by taking you just as you are, in your brokenness, with your bruises and scars and starts working from the inside out. Allow Him to work in your heart and you too will point to Him as your strength, redeemer and savior when people ask who you owe this change to.

 

point to you

Point to You

How can I forgive when I can’t forgive myself

How can I move on when all I have is regrets

How can I fix you when I keep turning away

How can I make it past the noise with my shame

I need a miracle

Some healing for my heart

I want simplicity

Where I can rest

But I need a miracle to put my past to death

I know You want my heart

My bruises and my scars

I’m coming as I am

The only way I can

I can’t forget from where I’ve been

And what my heart’s been rescued from

Yeah when they ask me who

I owe my whole life to

I point to You

I point to You

I want so badly just to finally get well

But I don’t want a quick fix and emotional self

I will be honest with my humanity

No I’m not perfect and I don’t pretend to be

I need a miracle

Some healing for my heart

I need a revelation

I want simplicity

Where I can rest

But I need a miracle to put my past to death

I know You want my heart

My bruises and my scars

I’m coming as I am

The only way I can

I can’t forget from I’ve come

And what my heart’s been rescued from

Yeah when they ask me who

I ow my whole life to

I point to You

I point to You

People say that I’ve lost myself

I’ll say I’m found in You

People ask where does my story end

I’ll say it starts with You

I know You want my heart

My bruises and my scars

I’m coming as I am

The only way I can

I can’t forget from where I’ve come

And what my heart’s been rescued from

Yeah when they ask who

I owe my whole life to

I point to You

I point to You

I point to You

I point to You

Lyrics by Seth Mosley & Darren Mulligan for We Are Messengers