Feeling Comfortably Numb Is No Longer An Option


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One of the most difficult things in life, especially as a Christian, is to comprehend how many people are actually watching us.

Now, if you are a parent you know your children are watching and listening to everything. That’s why we are careful as to what we say and do.

If you are married then you know for a fact that your spouse is watching and listening.

But, what about those watching you at work, at church, in the store, at your child’s sporting event, on the golf course or on social media?

What about the other “people”? Folks that run the Nielsen ratings, for instance. How about the internet police who can see every single website you go to?

Have you ever thought about what your character looks like in front of everyone?

Does you neighbor see you go to church every Sunday but watches as you curse out the lawnmower for not starting?

Are there men or women at the golf course that know you are a Christian and yet watch you get so upset over a bad swing that you throw your club down?

What about the other parents at the sporting events? Do you belittle your child, in front of them, for not playing up to your standards?

What about your character when it is just you and your family? Have you grown so numb over the sin in front of your eyes on the television that it doesn’t even matter anymore?

I believe that IS part of our problem. We have become numb to sin!

It hits us from freaking everywhere and every which way possible. And we have become numb to most of it.

What offended us at first is now an after thought.

What used to give us a repulsive feeling, now, no longer affects us at all.

And we all know, from a physical sense, that numbness eventually starts to make that part of the body useless. So in a spiritual sense being numb to the sin around us, in us and how we react to it makes us neither hot nor lukewarm but cold.

So how can we, as Christians, run the race and be a said witnesses see a contradiction in our lives…


We must get back to that state of saying break my heart Lord, for what breaks yours, create in me a clean heart and renew my mind.


By His Stripes We Are Healed


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Without His suffering and death we would still be lost…dead in our sin. Praise God for sending his Son, Jesus Christ, to suffer and die in our place.

The ultimate sacrifice of love.

Every Female In America Is A #MeToo Including Your Mom, Wife, Sister And Daughter


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You know something…I don’t normally jump on the bandwagon..per se. But this #MeToo thing that is going around social media to raise awareness of just how big sexual harassment and sexual abuse is, is so worth me writing about.

I have several of friends who have actually posted the #MeToo post on Facebook. Some of them have shared some of their story and yet many just have posted #MeToo just to show that they too have been sexually harassed or abused.

I, personally, applaud them for their bravery!

And yet, at the same time I’m sorry that they had to be brave during, after and even now over something a man did or said to them that was inappropriate.

Here’s the thing I don’t get. There are men out there thinking what’s the big deal! Some are even thinking back to a time where they themselves did something inappropriate to a young lady in school, at church, at work or even to their spouse. And they see nothing wrong with it.

That type of thinking actually pisses me off.

Because its plan wrong. No exceptions at all! NONE!

Let’s take a look at a few shall we.

Rape is wrong regardless of the situation!

Drugging a woman, to the point she has no idea of what is happening to her, just so a man can get his rocks off with wrong! It’s both a crime and a sin. Raping a woman does not give you control/power…in my eyes..well, for lack of a better word…it makes you a pussy.

I’ve had friends who have been raped…by their husband. I won’t go into details, but yes…it does happen. And I will not go into the reasons why a wife may so no to sex.

But No, means No!

Guys, your wife, is not your lesser half, she is your equal. Scripturally speaking you have no more power over her body than she has over yours. Don’t abuse you precious gift God gave you. You are to treasure her…not abuse her.

Speaking sexual things to a co-worker or any other female is also inappropriate.

Heck, unsnapping a teenage girls bra while walking down the hallway at school is wrong. It embarrasses her. It can humiliate her. And then other guys, usually, will turn to look. And then thoughts run in their mind. So, in essence you have sinned twice. You hurt the young girl/lady emotionally and you caused someone else to stumble.

And what about those wandering eyes men have…
Lust is a sin.

What about the woman who chose to wear a loose-fitting blouse instead of a tight one. She notices you starting and puts her hand over her blouse to block your view. Women can wear whatever they want to wear guys. It’s your responsibility to not look and lust. And if you constantly are looking that is sexual harassment.

What about that lady that you are holding a conversation with and the whole time you are talking to her…not once did you look her in the eye with respect but rather you are looking her over from head to toe and back up again? Do you think that is sexual harassment? It is!

What about the times you slapped you waitress on the butt as she walked away? Doesn’t matter if you are drunk or not…sexual harassment! And just downright disrespectful!!

Do you think calling one of your coworkers names of endearment like honey, sweetie or baby is a form of sexual harassment? I do.

What about when you place your hand on a female co-workers shoulder as you bend over her to look at what she is working on? Yep…sexual harassment and an invasion of space.photodune-1876696-sexual-harassment-in-the-workplace-xs851831439.jpg


What about that woman you intentionally brush up against? You lightly touch her bottom with your hand on purpose and then have the nerve to apologize for a conscious act on your part to sexually harass her…geez.

And we wonder why a LOT of women call men pigs or dogs!!

And I could keep going and going with different scenarios. But I believe you get the idea….I am TOTALLY against sexual harassment and abuse!

Here’s the thing men…we are to treat women with respect. They are NOT play things. Seeing women as sexual beings is a given because they are, just like we are. BUT just because she is female does NOT give you the right, as a male, to abuse her sexually, visually, verbally or physically. Period!

Think on this verse for a few minutes guys and let it sink in…deeply sink in.


Now that you have thought on that verse, let me say that a deed is an action that is performed intentionally or consciously. So can you, as a male, consciously sexually harass or abuse another woman and yet follow that verse? Of course not. 

So stop your thoughts before they become deeds, which not only harms you but others as well


Fear Not For I Will Help You…Even In Your Finances


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Man, there can be so many reasons in life to give each of us a sense of failure or giving up because nothing is going right. And to be completely honest, I believe it stems from fear.

Fear can rear it’s ugly head in any situation. It shows up in our finances, our work place, our home life, our children, our marriage, our sex lives and even in our walk with the Lord.

Fear of the unknown can be so overpowering at times.

In finances, fear tells us that there is no way to get ahead in life. There just seems to be more going out than coming in, so we get credit cards to ease the burden a little.

You can buy now and pay it back over time. But, with that, you have just added to your monthly outgo and are in fact overpaying for the product. That is unless you pay the whole bill off every month. And I know very few people who do that..just saying.

What happens if one spouse loses their job? What about the single mom who often times struggles to even put food on the table on a weekly basis all because of debt?


What does God say about fear, regardless of the situation?


And this one because He knows us so intimately…

But even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not therefore: ye are of more value than many sparrows.

Luke 12:7 KJV

How can we possibly relieve some of the pressure in our finances?

Well…this may tick you off…but for starters…you don’t have to have the crap you think you do!

You need clothes on your and your families back. And no, they do Not have to be designer brands.

You need a roof over your head! And it does NOT have to be extravagant. It just has to have the essentials and enough room for your family.

You need a dependable vehicle for your family. That one depends on the size of your family. But no one NEEDS three vehicles, like some feel they do so the husband can drive one to work, the wife drives one and then you have the play toy for the weekends.

You do not need newest phone or gizmo that comes out. Those are wants, not needs.

But, what if you are in that financial pickle and fear there is no way out to get out from under the stress of bills?

Have you thought of selling some of the things that you do not use to help pay off some bills. Even a little towards principle helps.

Do you have a bill that is almost paid off? Instead of counting that money as oh boy now I can go get this item. Why not take the money and apply it to another bill, so you can pay it off faster.

No, it’s not easy. I’m the world’s worst at trying to do that but when I did apply it…it helped.

If you’re married coming together, as a couple, is a must. After all you are in this together…right? Talk about it, pray about, seek counsel if need be. Just don’t give up.

Because, if you have children…you can’t. They are watching your lead in every aspect.

But mostly importantly, trust in the fact that God is there waiting to help in every way you can imagine and more. Talk it out with Him, sit, be still and listen. You would be surprise and what your Creator, who knows your needs before you do, might have to say.

“Do not worry then, saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear for clothing?’ “For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

Matthew 6:31-33

Yes, We All Need To Recharge


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If you have ever owned a flashlight, you know the batteries need changing or put on to charge in order to supply the power needed for the light when you push the button.

Even though a low battery can still allow you to see somewhat, the brightness of a fully charged battery is amazing.

This world is a dark place and in many areas it is a very dark place. We have a calling from God, Himself, to carry our light into the world so that others may see.

We are the light of the world!

And trust me…we need our batteries charged often!!

Our power source for recharging our battery can be worship, fellowship with other believers, but the most powerful source is the Bible and prayer.

We must get into the Word of God for our lights to be charged. We must study to show ourselves proved.

We must pray daily for the Lord to minister through us by ours words and our actions. That way, His light, may shine brightly, through us, for those around us to see it.

And just like moths to the flame, people will be drawn to that light.