Feeling Guilty For Grieving

Yes, yes and yes. One thing I have learned journeying with a dear friend who lost her son, several years ago, is that each person grieves differently and that there is no set time limit for the grieving process.

Please do not rush this. Allow them to grieve in their own way and at their own pace. Would you want to walk in their shoes? I think not…

All the Things Joni

Did you know that the majority of people who have lost a loved one are made to feel guilty about their grief?

Did you know that someone grieving often isolates themselves, disconnects from people, because they feel misunderstood?

Unfortunately, a loved one left behind will often suffer in silence because they have been told:

It’s time to move on.

Aren’t you over this yet?

You need to stop dwelling on this.

It’s been long enough, it’s time to let go.

Aren’t you ready to get on with your life yet?

Or, some of my favorites:

He’s in a better place.

Time heals all wounds.

God needed another angel.

Everything happens for a reason.

Although, some of these things are said with the best of intentions, let me make this clear, they just aren’t helpful! At all!

We didn’t lose something that can be replaced. We lost a person. For…

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Tears

Those tiny drops of humanity. Those round, wet balls of fluid that tumble down from our eyes, creep down our cheeks, and splash on the floor of our hearts...they are miniature messengers, on call twenty-four hours a day to substitute for crippled words. They drip, drop and pour from the corner of our souls, carrying… Continue reading Tears

Death Of A Loved One

I recently lost my second mom. And by that I mean she, Susie Jordan, was my best friends mom. She treated me as her own son. She gave me advice, she fed me but more importantly she loved me. And I loved her. It brought back memories of my PawPaw. You see I didn't want… Continue reading Death Of A Loved One