How did it get so bad? I spent the whole night crying and not sleeping! How did it get so bad you ask? Well...let's go back and allow me to explain a few things to you along the way. So you feel it all began with the naked women and the playing cards, right? Yes.… Continue reading Mirror Series VI
Ok, ladies and gents. I have a question or two or three. These questions are in reference to the Understanding Men collaboration between Charity and I. She messaged me and asked me why no one is commenting or liking our posts. I think I know why but I would like your cooperation... Is it because… Continue reading Understanding Men: Porn Issues
Here is the 3rd segment in mine and Charity’s collaboration on understanding men. This one was a little hard for me as I had to come forward and say yes I fell after 9 years clean. But I have always said I would be honest with the reader.
Yes, freedom from porn IS possible but you have to want to be free!
Men, if you are struggling and need someone to talk to just send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Charity, thank you for reaching out and asking me to do this with you! I am honored! I really enjoyed your response. And Every Man’s Battle is a good starting point.
*Warning: This post contains content that may be offensive or explicit.
I am constantly trying to understand men. Whenever I am hurt or puzzled over something a man does, I try to find out the intention and meaning behind it. I can often be found saying, “I don’t want to hate men, I want to understand them.” One issue that puzzles me is pornography. I would like to understand why men like to look at it and how to react when they do. I asked my good friend, Stuart, over atSomething to Stu Overif he would be interested in collaborating with me on a series about pornography. Specifically, why men choose porn & what can we as girlfriends/wives expect. Stuart is fantastic at explaining why men do what they do and he is excellent at giving advice. I sent him a list of questions to answer and each…
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But we don’t have to play into Satan’s hands. We can correct our erroneous beliefs and develop an accurate and genuine assessment of our true selves. And we begin by understanding God’s assessment of our worth.
This is how shame is defeated and the recovery can truly begin.
By Eddie Capparucci, Ph.D., LPC, C-CSAS
Those who struggle with addictive behaviors most likely have a laundry list of terms to describe themselves — and as you would imagine, none of them are complementary. There is an intense shame that comes with addiction, especially for those who struggle with porn. I believe shame is the strongest barrier to recovery. The constant battle to “get it right” and failing time and time again leads those addicted feeling defeated and hopeless.
Many of the negativelabels we wear are nothing more than lies we have come to believe woven into our identity. Lies such as “I’m not smart,” “I don’t measure up, “I am unlovable,” “I am worthless,” “I’m weak,” and “I am a mistake.”
We tell ourselves numerous mistruths, and we carry them around like ID cards. These are identities filled with hurt, pain, and shame. Songwriter and performer Matthew West wrote…
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Here is the devotional: Proverbs 20:5 says, “The purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out.”In other words, we don’t always know why we do the very thing we hate doing - sometimes it takes a voice outside our heart to make sense of it.… Continue reading The Delusion Of Porn: Confess Your Thoughts