Several years ago I hired this young man to work the evening shift. Part of his duties for that shift was to vacuum the floor as the night manager did their duties. I was shocked to find out that this young man, who was seventeen, did not know how to vacuum…much less turn the thing on.
I have a friend whose son gets mad when he comes home from work and dinner is not ready. I mean cursing mad. And I’m like what…he can’t cook for himself…geez.
So…with that last statement let me begin my rant/train of thoughts on why we as parents are failing our children.
I believe this verse is so misinterpreted. No, not misinterpreted…but only looked at from a spiritual perspective.
Yes, we are to teach our children in the ways of the Lord. Yes, our prayers as they grow older, should be that they will not depart from the knowledge of what is right and wrong according to those teachings. But…
What about training them up in every other aspect of life as well?
We teach our children how to eat, yet we don’t want to teach them to cook for themselves.
We teach our children how to tie their shoes…but a lot of parents either don’t teach them to dress for themselves or they just would rather have control over them in what they wear.
A lot of parents will teach their daughter to cook, clean and do laundry and yet will not teach their son the same things.
Some parents are so overly protective with their children that when they become teens or adults they don’t know how to handle issues thrown at them due to a lack of knowledge.
Moms who are the stay at home mom that do ALL the cleaning, laundry and have dinner ready when dad gets home sets a standard for their sons and daughters. This is a wrong standard.
Dads who work their eight-hour shift then come home expecting the house to be clean and dinner ready when he gets home sets the same standard. Wrong.
My dad would come home from work, sit in his chair and never help my mom. I never saw him cook unless it was on the grill…cuz that was a man’s thang.
I also never saw him do dishes, wash clothes but I did see him come home, turn on the TV and do nothing for the rest of the day.
Dads will take the sons hunting, fishing and hiking and yet, despite the pleas from their daughter, will not take them along because well…she a girl.
Why do we tell our sons to suppress their emotions and to just suck it up because boys don’t cry and yet get upset when our daughters don’t open up.
Some parents, with only one child, will be like overkill in a lot of areas that actually hurt that child and will carry over into adulthood and into marriage.
What about the double standard we instill into our children like we are living back in the 40’s?
Why do we as parents tell our daughters not to wear certain clothing because boys will only look at her with one thing on their mind? To me that sets the standard in a girl’s mind that all they are good for is for boys to lust after. That’s wrong.
Why do we, as parents, instill in our daughters that sex is a bad thing and yet we are totally different with our sons…double standard.
And with that one…why are girls who have multiple partners over time looked down on as a slut but a boy is considered a stud…
There are major issues with both of those scenarios. Yes, we should tell our children about sex openly and honestly but never that it is bad. Nowhere in scripture does it say that sex is bad, for it is an act designed by God.
We should never tell our daughters that sex is just to satisfy the longings/urges of a man. Because we all know that is crap. Women have longings/urges just as the men do.
I truly believe that many intimacy levels in marriages today could be off the chain had their parents told them different things about sex growing up.
I mean come on parents, I have witnessed so many other issues that just blow my mind….
There are college age boys and girls who don’t know how to wash their own clothes. And instead of teaching them to do just that, we say bring them with you when you come home this weekend and I’ll wash them for you. No!! Teach them to be responsible. Both genders need to know how to wash, dry and fold their own clothes.
Each gender needs to know how to cook for themselves. They both need to know how to do the dishes.
Both genders need to know how to treat the other gender with respect.
Both genders need to know how to show emotions, how to communicate openly, how to be available for their future spouses by seeing it in action at home…now…not later when their marriage is failing.
Both genders need to know what it means to be an adult, even at a young age, because adulting is a tough job. They need to prepared…not babied
Train up a child….