Reflections On My Calling

It popped up in my memories today on Facebook…on February 10th, ten years ago I was sitting in a pew in a church in Alabama.

I had been invited to Johnny Hunt’s men conference by my pastor. He even paid for my ticket to go.

Unbeknownst to me the conference would be on pornography within the church and what must be done. What a surprise that first night was. And yet, one of the powerful turning points in my life.

It was on that night God placed a calling upon me. One that scared me to death. You see, I was addicted to porn at the time. And had been for decades.

His calling…help men become free from the bondage of porn.


So, upon, returning home I started a page on Facebook called Resurrecting The Redeemed From Porn Addiction. I read articles from Covenant Eyes like crazy. I even read non- Christian articles that kind of helped me understand the appeal and dangers of a porn filled lifestyle. The more I learned and shared, the more people responded.

It was a rough start I will say that. I fell a lot. But I realized what my triggers were and avoided them to the best of my ability.

That page was a jumping point into blogging and being an accountability partner. Being an accountability partner is tough no matter the addiction. Because addiction affects everyone around the one addicted.

Getting calls at two or three in the morning is tough. But knowing who is on the other end and the fact that they need someone to talk to or pray with so they don’t fall is worth it.

I’ve seen God do some amazing things in these past six years. I have witnessed first hand the power of God through recovery. Men accepting Christ as their Savior, repenting of their sins and walking away from porn. Single men getting married, having children and loving their wives…porn free.

I’ve had women, who struggle, reach out to me. Women, who’s husband’s porn addiction is destroying their marriage. I believe hearing their side of the story is what still pushes me forward. Because they, like their husband, are missing the one thing they are both craving…true intimacy. Porn kills intimacy!

Reflecting has been pleasant today…for the most part.

I praise God I am no longer in the chains of addiction. I praise God for the touch of His love, mercy and forgiveness in the lives of so many over the years.

I thank you, dear friends, for taking the journey with me, for following along, for your prayers, support and comments.

Let’s give God the full glory He deserves for lives changed and marriages healed. Let’s press on!

God Bless,

P.S. I’ll be honest…I did not stay in my calling. I have let it go to the wayside along with several things here of late and I’m sorry y’all. I’ve been on a slow decline that needs to end and seeing this pop up in my memories today helped remind me God is not finished using my story. Stay tuned…

32 thoughts on “Reflections On My Calling”

  1. Good for you! You saw a huge need and you did something about it. I’m sure your ministry is not only saving marriages but also saving souls. Keep doing what you’re doing. Praise God!

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  2. I am so inspired and heartened by the journey you’ve been on and what you are sharing here. It’s definitely not an unfamiliar topic for me, and I’m just absolutely delighted to have come across your blog–thank you so much for stopping by mine. The group I volunteer for, She’s Somebody’s Daughter, works hard to raise awareness about the link between porn and the commercial sex industry/sex abuse; if you’re curious, you can find them at Also, I expect you’ve heard of Fight the New Drug? In case you haven’t, allow me to recommend them as well; I love what they’re doing.

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    1. Thank you! She’s Somebody’s Daughter was actually one of the first groups that I reached out to years ago when I started doing research. They along with Covenant Eyes, XXXChurch and yes, Fight the New Drug who came along a few years later have helped me tremendously over the years with their knowledge and experience.

      Thank you so much for checking out my blog and for your kind words.

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  3. I’m always amazed at how God can take imperfect people like ourselves and begin to change us into what only He can see. And, as imperfect as we are, He looks at our hearts and moves us forward to His likeness, from there. Great testimony Stuart! Blessings!

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  4. The last part of your post really got me. If we are honest, we have all struggled with staying in our calling, since covid first hit. Life has been changed as we know it, and as the result, we have let some things fall to the wayside along the way. Admitting our weaknesses, faults and failures somehow is healing. Tomorrow is fresh with no mistakes in it! His mercies are new every morning! So I believe your decline that needs to end, ENDS TODAY! God is in your story, Stu—all our stories!—and as you said, God is not finished using your story. I will be sitting on ready waiting for updates to that story and will ‘stay tuned!’ 👏🏼 🙌🏼

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