Power To Forgive : The Power To Forgive

Here is the devotional:

Forgiveness is a decision. You don’t need to have any warm, fuzzy feelings before you forgive. The power is available as soon as you choose. When Jesus sent the Holy Spirit, we were given the power to forgive even the worst offenses. You have the power right now because the Spirit of God lives in you. (Romans 8:11) You don’t have to wait for a certain amount of time to pass. You just decide: I’m going to forgive.

So let me offer some practical steps to help you through this decision.

Forgiveness starts by admitting, “I was hurt.”

That’s hard to admit, especially if you see yourself as a strong person. Admitting we got hurt makes us feel vulnerable. But once you get up the courage to admit you were hurt, you’ve cracked open the door to be able to forgive.

The next step is to admit how you were hurt. You have to actually name the hurt and shame. I was betrayed. I was lied to. I was abandoned. I was rejected. You need to say it out loud to yourself. If you want, you can use the following as an example of what to say:

■ Name of person betrayed my trust and used it to take advantage of me. He hurt me.

■ Name of person lied to me and then told lies about me. She hurt me.

■ Name of person betrayed my family’s trust. He hurt my family.

■ Name of person abandoned me. The person who should have protected me left me alone.

This is an intense process, so I don’t recommend doing it alone. Ask a pastor or professional counselor who understands forgiveness to walk through it with you. When I had to walk through forgiving a pastor who hurt me, a counselor helped me walk through it.

Admitting hurt involves grieving. We have to recognize what we lost. We have to express our sadness over the loss, which can be painful, which is why many people decide they don’t want to take this step. But trust me, the cost of holding onto the hurt is far worse than the temporary pain of confessing and grieving it.

After I expressed how that pastor hurt me and what I lost, my counselor told me to repeat the ways that that pastor had hurt me, but she had me add one final statement at the end: “But I choose to forgive him for hurting me.”

It was awkward to say it all out loud again. But the relief I felt was amazing. It was like I regained a sense of hope and perspective. I wasn’t a victim. I was choosing to forgive someone who had hurt me. It was my choice. More importantly, I was embracing God’s grace to forgive and that released peace in my life.

And then there’s one final step: You have to remind yourself of your decision. Remind yourself when you wake up. Remind yourself when you think about what the person did. Remind yourself before you go to bed. You’ll know you’ve truly forgiven when you look back at the hurt and feel no anger—only peace.

One of the quickest ways to decide what action you need to take to walk out your decision to forgive is to ask yourself: How would I respond to that person if I truly had forgiven them and let it go?

Then go do that. And don’t be surprised if you find a sense of peace overwhelming you as you walk in the power of forgiveness. Forgiveness always leads to inner peace. A deep peace that goes beyond understanding.

Here are the scriptures referenced:

Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Ephesians 4:31‭-‬32 KJV

Then said Jesus to them again, Peace be unto you: as my Father hath sent me, even so send I you.

And when he had said this, he breathed on them, and saith unto them, Receive ye the Holy Ghost:

Whose soever sins ye remit, they are remitted unto them; and whose soever sins ye retain, they are retained.
John 20:21‭-‬23 KJV

Here are Stu’s thoughts:

I honestly can not add anything to this.

I know how these steps work because I have used them and they work.

Name the person and the deed and speak the forgiveness out loud. Release it! Let the devil know you are not holding that crap in any more!

3 thoughts on “Power To Forgive : The Power To Forgive”

  1. Hurt feelings carry so much power! We must realize that God’s power is greater; also that He gives us that power through the Holy Spirit, and we can use that to His glory and our peace.
    Great devotional.

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