I Forgive You, But…| Day 3: Forgiveness Unclogs Your Blessings Pipe

Here is the devotional:

The more Barbara and I studied, the more we learned that forgiveness is how God deals with mankind. He is not a grudge-holder, but a forgiving father. Since you are his child, you should (and can!) also be a forgiver. It’s for your ultimate benefit. Harboring unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die; it’s not hurting the one you’re holding a grudge against, it’s hurting you.

Unforgiveness is going against God’s principles. If I don’t choose to deal with people in the same manner God does (by forgiving), then I’m disobeying his many admonitions to forgive and I’m outside of his realm, so I can expect the result of that in my life. I can’t go against his nature (by harboring unforgiveness) and expect his blessings to flow.

In other words, if we harbor unforgiveness, we’re “clogging the blessing pipe.” All of God’s blessings belong to and are always flowing to us in Christ Jesus (Eph. 1:3), and he always loves us (Jer. 31:3). But when we disobey his command to forgive, that clogs the pipe. There is something standing between us and his blessings, and that thing is unforgiveness. Unforgiveness puts us outside of his promises.

One the other hand, when we do choose to forgive, we’re right there in his bailiwick. I know bailiwick is a funny word, but Merriam-Webster’s dictionary defines it as “a special domain” or “a jurisdiction.” When we choose forgiveness, we’re right there with God in his domain; we’re in his jurisdiction, which means all that he is and all that he’s promised is available to us. You could say he lives in “forgiveness land” where forgiveness is the way of life.

But if we choose to keep unforgiveness, then we’re outside of his jurisdiction, out of the reach of his blessings and protection. I don’t want to be there, do you?  

I’m glad to live in God’s domain and receive his blessings. I’ve discovered that one of the requirements for living there is that I must also forgive, as he does. Ephesians 4:32 says it this way: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you.” So I’ve decided (and I hope you do too) that I don’t want to live in “grudge-holding land” because God’s not there! I want to choose forgiveness, and keep my blessing pipe clear.

Here are the scriptures referenced:

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Ephesians 4:32 KJV

Here are Stu’s thoughts:

Hmmm…I thought only sin could separate us from God…

Can unforgiveness be considered a sin?

Let me throw out these two verses of scripture real quick…

Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord:

Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
Hebrews 12:14‭-‬15 KJV

In verse 14 it states that we should follow peace and holiness for without those no man shall see the Lord🤔

Then in verse 15 it really puts it in terms that should be easily understood since unforgiveness is really a form of bitterness towards someone. And then it goes on to say that many can be defiled by that bitterness.

And for those that do not know what the word defile means in reference to people and not objects…here ya go…

to make foul, dirty, or unclean; pollute; taint; debase. to violate the chastity of. to make impure for ceremonial use; desecrate. to sully, as a person’s reputation.

And when we have unforgiveness in our hearts towards another person and we vocalize our thoughts about said person…well we pretty much pollute, taint, debase, etc someone whether it is intentional or not. And we have also have allowed said bitterness to take root in our hearts. And trust me it grows even without being watered by the one we are angry with. We do that ourselves.


I also thought one could never be outside of God’s reach since it rains and the just and unjust alike.

But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.
Matthew 5:44‭-‬45 KJV

Yeah, I threw in verse 44 on purpose…love your enemies…

So if God makes the sun rise and fall on the evil and the good and sends the rain to the just and just, how in the world can you be out of His reach? You can’t! It’s impossible.

See I don’t really agree with the author and her new cool word Bailiwick. I understand they are using it make their point. But we can never be outside of God’s jurisdiction. This whole Earth if His footstool! Even the most evil person has the blessing of food on  the table, a place to sleep and a roof over their head. We take it for granted. But these are blessings that many good people don’t have. And I give names for that one.

But you can be out of His will. And His will is for us love one another as Christ loves us (John 15:12 and to forgive one another as He has forgiven us for Christ’s sake (Ephesians 4:32).


So yes, unforgiveness can and should be considered a sin.

But will it block the blessings from God?

In my eyes NO! Because if I wake up in the morning, I am blessed that the Lord has given me another day. I will still have the blessings of my loved ones.

Like I said…in my eyes. I see blessings everywhere. I just take a lot them for granted just like everyone else.

In your eyes maybe you do feel that the blessings from God have been blocked and feel out of His realm. Well, start forgiving those you said you never would and allow the Lord to mend your heart. Get free from the root of bitterness and have peace.

It is so freeing!!!

8 thoughts on “I Forgive You, But…| Day 3: Forgiveness Unclogs Your Blessings Pipe”

  1. I tend to agree with you, Stu. We have to forgive if we are to be forgiven. Is it easy? Sometimes not. I’ve always been quick to forgive, but the older I’ve gotten, there have been some hurtful situations where I had to pray everyday, several times a day to work through it and “learn” to let things go. But God!

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    1. More often than not forgiving another for offense made is not easy. It involves laying aside the I in the equation just as Jesus did. He asked that God remove the cup and yet still chose to do the will of the Father.

      I still have a tough time with it😢

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      1. I think we all have a hard time with it, even if it’s every now and again. But God! He is the answer to it all. He always helps us through it when I get “me” out of the way! 🙌🏼

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  2. I think you’re both correct It seems to me that the author is saying that, if you live in unforgiveness, you are not positioning yourself to fully receive and use (for His glory) God’s blessings. Yes, the blessings fall on the just and the unjust; but those who harbor bitterness have clouded their vision of God. They have strayed from the “land of clear vision” (“God’s bailiwick”) to their own land of darkness. Both fall under the realm of God, because God created and owns all. But God doesn’t want us to enter the land of darkness – He wants better for us. (I just wrote about that darkness here: https://maggietiggles.wordpress.com/2021/05/26/wobbling-in-the-dark/ ) It’s not that God isn’t in the land of darkness – He is everywhere – but He loves us and guides us to His Light.

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  3. God’s Word plainly says that He will forgive us just as we forgive others. I have thought for many years that lack of forgiveness hurts me more than the person I’m holding a grudge against. They are going about their merry way and I am missing out on God’s best for me since I am holding onto unforgiveness. I think it creates a wall between me and God. I always think about Jesus forgiving me everything, so why would I hold back forgiveness from someone here. So, I will myself to forgive and after repeating to myself over and over (each time I get upset about it again), eventually it gets into my heart and the person has no hold on me because I forgave them.

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    1. Thank you Vickie😊 Eventually it does get into our hearts and we can move forward. I wish it was just as simple as saying Lord, I forgive ______! But it just doesn’t work that way…not all the time

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