Seven Questions That Rattle In The Minds Of Most Men: Day 6

Here is today’s devotional:

We’ve pictured our desired future—at 70, I want to be healthy enough to play golf.And we’ve determined the actions it will take to get there—complete physical therapy for my knee pain. So we’re all set, right? Let’s grit our teeth and get going.

Not so fast.

There’s an obstacle in our way that we can’t grit our teeth or white-knuckle our way through: sin. It’s attractive, desirable, pleasurable, deceitful, and deadly all at the same time. And no one is spared.

Sin disguises itself in hundreds of temptations, but we’ll tackle one that’s nearly universal.

Our question for today is: What about women?

Fulfilling the short-term desires of sin undermines your ability to fulfill your long-term desires. You can’t have that neighbor, flight attendant, or coworker and have the kind of marriage you want in your golden years.

Our response to sin’s temptation is typically a refrain of “Don’t look. Don’t lust. Don’t eat. Don’t drink.” We mentally double down on our promise to try to be a better man. Yet this never works, does it? Today’s reading in Romans reminds us why: no matter how much we want to do better, evil—sin—is at work within us.

Luckily, as Galatians tells us, we can have freedom from sin by swapping a single word in our vocabulary. Don’t say, “Don’t!” Say, “Help!” The only way to control sin is by the power of the Holy Spirit. All you have to do is ask.


When tempted by sin, replace the word “Don’t” with the word “Help.” “Holy Spirit, help me look away and remind me that my ultimate goal is a happy relationship with my wife.”

Here are the scriptures referenced:

This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.
Galatians 5:16 KJV

Now if I do that I would not, it is no more I that do it, but sin that dwelleth in me.

I find then a law, that, when I would do good, evil is present with me.

For I delight in the law of God after the inward man:

But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members.

Romans 7:20‭-‬23 KJV

Here are Stu’s thoughts:

Now, I’ve never lusted over a woman on a golf course. There was only one girl playing golf back when I was. Her name was Randi. She was cute. But she was my golfing buddy.

But I have lusted after many people in my life and had an major problem with porn for over 30 years.

Training one’s eyes to not look right at a pair of breasts walking towards you takes practice and determination to keep your mind focused.

I don’t remember ever saying in the back of my mind “Don’t Look” because I had already made up my mind that I would not look after rededicating my life to the Lord.

I have used the “Help” phrase in the morning while praying asking the Lord to help me have a good and healthy mindset.

One the things that has always helped me was asking the Lord to clear my mind of any impure thoughts especially at night before going to bed. It’s also one of the things I have passed down to the men who come to me for help.

Angie knew my past before we started seeing each as a couple because we were friends first. Never once did she have to doubt my integrity while I was with her. I had made up my mind that she was the only woman I wanted to look at. And she knew.

I know she would sneak a peek at me every now and then to see where my eyes were when we first started dating…but guess where my eyes were…watching her.

Don’t get me wrong I saw the other women around me. You can’t help it when you are in a crowd of people. I saw them but my heart and mind was on Angie.

I didn’t want to break her trust.

Guys, that double take or the neck bender habit can stop. It should stop especially if you dating and /or married.

It’s kind of like what Job said…I have made a covenant with my eyes to not look at another women (stuversion)

Keep your eyes, mind and heart focused on the ONE you are with.

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