Seven Questions That Rattle In The Minds Of Most Men: Day 1

Here is the devotional for the day:

If you love watching the Olympics like I do, maybe you’ve seen what happens at the end of many races, particularly track & field events. As the competitors near the finish line, they often look over their shoulders to see how they’re doing compared to the rest of the field.

This is obviously helpful if you’re trying to win a race. But it’s a frustrating mistake to do the same thing in your daily life—look to your left and right to see how you stack up to those around you.

As today’s verses in Ecclesiastes remind us, life unfolds in seasons. And comparing your life or accomplishments to someone else—especially someone who may be in a different season of life than you—can trick you into feeling like you’re falling behind, “chasing after the wind.”

So our question for today is: Where Am I?

Here are five seasons of a man’s life. Identifying which season you’re currently in can release the anxiety of having more or doing more than your season requires.

  • Foundation (0–20 years old): Being influenced by parents, peers, and pivotal circumstances
  • Preparation (20-30): Gathering education and experiences, making initial choices in love and lifestyle
  • Initiation (30–40): Learning your strengths and weaknesses as you expand your responsibility at work and home
  • Domination (40–60): Applying yourself toward accomplishing God’s assignment for you
  • Consolidation (60+): Narrowing in on your legacy, resolving hurt relationships


Identify which one of the five seasons you are currently in. Then list the two or three men to whom you most often compare yourself (hint: consider work, family, and leisure). Are those men in the same season as you?

Here are the scriptures referenced:

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:
Ecclesiastes 3:1 KJV

Again, I considered all travail, and every right work, that for this a man is envied of his neighbour. This is also vanity and vexation of spirit.
Ecclesiastes 4:4 KJV

Here are Stu’s thoughts:

I enjoyed his breaking down of the “seasons” of life. There is truth behind each stage/season.

And yet at any given moment we could be thrown back to the foundation stage due to a pivotal circumstance.

At 52 I have been through all the stages of life many times. Some of them all at once…ughhh.

But this I can agree on…we should never compare ourselves and the stage/season we are in to others!

Trying to keep up with the Joneses is bad enough but to actually compare how someone is handling their stage/season and how you are handling yours is crazy and brings a lot of unwanted anxiety and possible depression.

We must concentrate on OUR stage/season. And no one else’s.

Here’s an example…

When I was gaining my freedom from porn I would hear from other men in the same season/stage as me of sobriety doing so much better than me or even far worse than me. It was a roller coaster of emotions because one minute I would think I was doing great and the next I would hear from another and feel like crap.

But what I grew to realize was that we may be going through the same stage/season in gaining our freedom. How we each got to our stage WAS totally different because of how we viewed porn and how bad it effected each of us. I learned to concentrate on me and not compare. It took some time to get there though.

We should always encourage one another and pray for one another but at the same time realize we each handle things differently in learning and applying what we have learned.

*I hope that makes sense. If not let me knowmy brain is tired 🙃

3 thoughts on “Seven Questions That Rattle In The Minds Of Most Men: Day 1”

  1. You make a good point in that we may be in seasons according to ages & stages, but our spiritual journeys put us on a very different trajectory – i.e., a spiritual baby at age 43. Or, as you mention, stages of sobriety.
    As far as looking over our shoulder, Paul mentions running the race in a couple of his epistles. But the prize he talks about is available to all. We may look over our shoulders to see who we need to help, but thank God we have no competition!


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