Your Thoughts Matter, Your Opinion Matters & You Matter

I was chatting with a good friend of mine the other day and we were discussing some of the things that make us feel lonely. One thing she brought up struck a cord with me. I could relate. I’ve had the same thing happen to me on numerous occasions. I’m sure you have as well.

You know what? Not having your opinion or thoughts appreciated or even considered can be very painful.

Have you ever been asked to share you opinion or thought on something and then have the very person that asked you go “Have you lost your mind?”, “That won’t work at all”, or “That’s just stupid”? I have. And I’m like well you asked, but inside it hurts like crazy.

But after a while you just get to the point where you just don’t want to answer them at all because you know it will not matter what you say.

What about the times your boyfriend or girlfriend ask you where would you like to go tonight for dinner? You then name several places and their answer is no…to every one of them. You finally get to the point where your answer is “I don’t care”, when in fact you do care.

Men, how about your wife? How often have you asked her opinion and then reply to her answer with words that hurt her? And from then on her answer is whatever.

Ladies, have you done the same thing to your husband?

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Having our opinions is part of who we are, as a person. And not having those opinions appreciated or even taken into consideration leaves that person with feelings they should not have. Feelings such as unappreciated, unworthiness, resentment and even loneliness. Yes, loneliness. It can almost make them feel as if they don’t matter, which is a very lonely state of mind to be in.

Can I say something? We, and I’m talking to myself as well, need to stop this. This is not healthy for ANY relationship. If you care about that person, then their opinion should matter, their thoughts should matter because they matter.

15 thoughts on “Your Thoughts Matter, Your Opinion Matters & You Matter”

  1. Yup, this same sort of thing just happened to me. It is hurtful. Indeed — why’d you ask my opinion if you didn’t really want it in the first place?! The thing is, we no longer have a concept for absolute truth in our culture, and so I find I’m often met with: ‘well that’s ‘your’ truth’, which only complicates things more.
    Nice post, thanks for sharing these thoughts!!

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  2. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It’s so very true that we hear the word “whatever” way too much around us and that makes me sad. Caring or loving each other includes caring about the other person’s opinion or answer to a question, their feelings! Sadly, we often get to the point where, we inwardly already know that they don’t really want a reply, we listen but don’t express our thoughts anymore. Blessings, Elfriede

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    1. Thank for stopping by and for the comment Elfriede. I so dislike the word “whatever”

      I’ve had several of those conversations where I knew they really didn’t want a reply. And at the end of their one-sided chat with a few yeah and headshakes from me they are like that’s for listening. I knew that what they needed.

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      1. I understand what you are saying. I have one friend who can talk on the phone forever with me just saying Yes or No or just acknowledging but I know that’s what she needs. Praise the Lord that we can be there for these friends and people.

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