Sunday Music: Sanctus Real | Lead Me

This song has always struck a cord on my heartstrings.

It’s a love song, in my eyes, and yet it is a call out to all men who are married.


Being the spiritual leader is not easy. No, not easy at all. It is downright hard.

It goes beyond us as men just praying for ourselves and learning to apply scripture in our own lives.

As married men we have to learn how to put the lives of our loved ones first and foremost and ourselves last.

Yes, being a leader is actually being a servant!

It means giving of your time to your children when all you want to do is relax for a little while. There is no later or a little while in the eyes of a child. Your later is thirty minutes. Theirs is five at most.

It means giving of your time for your spouse. I’m not talking sex…yet. I’m talking time helping. She will never be willing to “submit” if all you do is sit on your butt when you get home from work and leave the house work to her after she, herself, has spent eight hours at work too.

It means setting time aside to read the Bible not just by yourself, which you should, but as a family together.

It means praying with your kids as you help tuck them into bed at night…

It means holding your wife’s hand as you are praying together either in the morning as you getting ready for work or before you lay your heads down at night.

It means loving and respecting your wife so well that your daughter sees the type of man she will want to date and later marry. And that your son will see the man he needs to be like when he starts to date and later marries the woman of his dreams.

LEAD by example!

It also means having sex with your wife not just when you want it but when she wants it as well.

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
1 Corinthians 7:3‭-‬5 KJV

When are we as people going to realize that sex is not just physical, but a mental and spiritual bonding that God created.

Why do you think the devil tries so hard to pervert sex. He knows how powerful it is…just saying.

It means not getting your new golf clubs, car, gun, etc, to ensure that your families needs are met first.

It means taking your wife’s opinions on things seriously and then you both seek God’s guidance.

It means being unselfish.

It means being naked and unafraid with your feelings and communication.

It means, just as we search scripture and pray to learn and draw closer to God, we must never stop learning about our wives and our children.

It means being intentional to stay active in their daily lives.

It means being on guard 24/7/365 because the devil (our true enemy) knows how to kill and destroy. And to destroy a marriage he will go for the head through any means possible.

And you dear husband are the leader/head of the family. Take the calling God gave you as your top priority!

So hit your knees dear husband, asking the Lord to lead you daily so you can lead them…because you can not lead them alone.

I know because I tried it on my own and I failed more times than I care to admit.

Guys these books will help…

I have read all four, they have changed my life in many ways. I highly recommend them!

15 thoughts on “Sunday Music: Sanctus Real | Lead Me”

  1. As always Stu……your words here inspire and convict! Once again you touch on a touchy subject. Men leading and women submitting…….just as GOD intended. A marriage that works has GOD in the middle of it! Actually any relationship works this way. It is sad to me how satan has gotten into marriages and torn them apart, but it is his thing here on earth. Thanks for the recommendation on all these books and will share them with my son, Jason.

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    1. Thank you Maxine.
      It is sad how satan has marriage in his sights since the beginning of time. His attacks have just gotten stronger and stronger over the years.
      I have talked with many women who say they would submit to their husband in the biblical sense if their husband would be the man of God they should be.
      You are so right about the marriage that works has God at the center.
      I hope Jason gets as much out of these books as I did

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  2. These are wonderful words from the heart! I can’t help but get tears in my eyes when I hear this song, which happened very recently! If only more men could realize what a difference they could make in their family, by stepping up and being the spiritual leader in the home. Some of us women have had to shoulder the responsibility ourselves for years, making sure to pray with our children and take them to church. It’s a hard place to find yourself in for sure. Thanks for posting!

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    1. Thank you Renee. It is hard. I watched my mom do this for my sister and I until I was old enough to drive myself to church. And she did all of the cooking (unless it was on the grill), washed the clothes, cleaned the house, helped us with homework and dad really did not do much other than bring home the paycheck. At least that’s what I remember.

      I wish men would realize that providing income for the family is not their only job.

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  3. Stu, thank you for this inspirational piece. My husband and I were marriage counselors for a long time, and saw the Lord do mighty and marvelous things. Anymore though, men and women need to be taught, and sometimes reminded what it means to be married (staring at ground zero). You have inspired me to consider writing about the marriage relationship again. Without the adults walking in wisdom and love, what chance to our children have? Blessings to you and your family. ♥

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    1. Thank you Jacquie for your kind words.

      One of the things my dad told me that hit me real hard when we trying to mend everything several years ago was that he was shown how properly love my mom or be a dad so how could I taught you the things that you needed. That cut deep because he was then saying my PawPaw, the most loving and caring man I have ever known never shown my dad.

      I chose to break that cycle with my kids.

      I do hope you write about marriage because most post are needed about marriage besides how to improve your sex life.

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  4. Stuart, I LOVE this!!!! Beautifully written, Brother, and every word is so true. I truly wish every husband would read this and feel led to lead. So often they feel lectured and like everyone is putting too much pressure on them, but I feel like you are such an awesome teacher for them. 😊❤

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    1. I’m so glad you liked it sis! Honestly, it wasn’t what I had in mind when I picked the song but then the words just started coming and I knew it was not me writing at that point.

      They should not feel lectured or even “pressured” just because they do not know how to lead. Most of us were never taught. We didn’t have Godly father either.

      But at the same time they need to realize the importance of their role.


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