May | Honor Thy Mother Tag

Dollfaced Writer has tagged me in this month’s tag that she and her mom Purple Rose created! This month’s tag is meant to honor our mom. Next month’s tag will honor our dad.

Here are the rules:

Thank the person who nominated you to participate.

Link back to this original post.

Use the original featured image.

Copy and paste the meaning of this tag into your post.

Answer the questions.

Nominate one or more people to participate.

Enjoy the rest of your month! ❤

The Meaning of this Tag:

A mother is someone who loves her child unconditionally, nourishes them, protects them always, teaches them values, disciplines them fairly, and wants the best for them. For that, we should always, ALWAYS have respect for our mothers. They are designed to bring beautiful life into this world and nurture that precious life as God created them to. Mother’s Day is about reminding your mother how much you appreciate her, but I hope this tag will perhaps remind you this month how blessed you are to have a mother at all.

Now, I don’t want anyone getting the wrong idea about this tag. Trust me, I study psychology in college currently and I know there is no perfect relationship with a parent. If you have been abused, neglected, or abandoned by your mother then you probably will not enjoy the idea of honoring her. And you know what? There is nothing wrong with how you feel. She hurt you, and that hurt may never go away depending on how severe it was. Your mother may be an addict, a narcissist, an abuser, a cheater, a liar…the list goes on and on. I am blessed to have the mother I have, because I think of her as pretty close to perfect, but many are not as blessed as I have been.

However, (I know, that’s never a fun word to hear), we are called to honor our mothers. For me, that’s easy. My mother is my best friend and is the most amazing person in existence besides Jesus in my mind. Honoring her is the least I can do for everything she has been through, everything she has sacrificed, and everything she does daily to be the incredible person and mother she is.

But, like I said before, many don’t feel that way about their mothers and the last thing they may want to do is call their mom, send her a card, or give her a present for simply giving birth to them. (Trust me, I have a step-mother and two grandmothers I don’t speak to). So…how does one honor their mother in that case?

Pray for her. What she did or didn’t do in childhood has many ramifications, many of which you may live daily, and exposing yourself to her abuse for the sake of Mother’s Day is not a good idea and I don’t encourage it. What I have learned from dealing with other family members is that it’s okay to love and honor someone from afar. It’s better to learn to love and forgive someone from a distance than to hate and hurt up close. Don’t be ashamed for doing that. Honoring someone does not mean letting them hurt you anymore. Just say, “Thank you for being in my life as God willed it, I forgive you for what you’ve done, but I am going to love you and honor you from a safe distance.”

Some words of encouragement from Dollfaced Writer:

I know it may make this tag a bit long, but I feel like there’s someone that needs to hear this:

• Your mother wasn’t kind to you, but that does not mean you are not worthy of kindness.
• Your mother wasn’t there for you, but that does not mean no one ever will be.
• Your mother abused you, but that does not mean you deserved it.
• Your mother lies, but that does not mean you don’t know the truth.
• Your mother manipulates, but that does not mean you can’t get control back in your life.
• Your mother loved you as she was capable of loving you, but God loves you unconditionally and will give you the love she was unable to give.

Honor your mother, whether it’s through a simple prayer or a sweet gift on Mother’s Day. If you can’t do it for her, do it for you. And, if you believe in Him, do it for Him. ❤

Here are the questions for this month’s tag:1. What is your relationship like with your birth mother, if anything at all?

As with most parent/child relationships it has had its ups and downs. I thank God we have had way more ups over the years than downs ❤
2. What is one thing you would change about your birth mother if you could? What is one thing you wouldn’t change?

There is nothing I would change about my mother. My mom, like all of us, has gone through a lot. But God was there through it all to guide her.
3. Who do you celebrate on Mother’s Day (your mother, step-mother, grandmother, aunt, etc.)?

I celebrate all mothers that are in my life from my mom, my kids mom and all my friends that have children.
4. What was the most valuable thing she taught you?

My mom actually taught me a lot growing up but this note she put in my Bible one day sums it all up…

5. What is one thing she does that you would never do?

Honestly I can not think of anything
6. How do you honor her on Mother’s Day?

I will usually call or text her and wish her a Happy Mother’s day. Today’s text was this…

Happy Mother’s Day mom!

I just want you to know that I love you and I miss you!

And I want to say thank you for being the one who kept me grounded in life and in my walk with God all these years. Thanks for being my closest friend growing up, the one person I could always talk to and never feel ashamed.

I am sorry I have hurt you over the years too. I have to live with that…

I love you!
7. How has your relationship with her impacted the person/parent you are today?

I would not be the loving and caring man I am if it was not for my mom’s influence in my life. God certainly knew what He was doing when He chose her to be my mom.

For this one I tag everyone! If you so choose to honor your mother! Have a great week!