Men, this book along with Point Man changed my life…literally. Both pointed out errors in what I thought it meant to be the spiritual leader and a man of God. I highly recommend this and all Steve Farrar’s books.
Here is an excerpt from Anchor Man…
A few weeks ago, I was in the car with my two boys. John is sixteen and Josh is thirteen. We were stopped at a traffic light, waiting for it to turn green.
As we waited, a woman who was obviously starved for attention crossed the street in front of us. How do I know that she was emotionally starved? By the way she was dressed and he way she carried herself. Let’s put it this way. She was wearing the minimum. And she wanted every guy at the intersection to notice.
A few minutes later, John said, “You know what, Dad? You never look.”
“Look at what?”
“You never look at women.”
“How do you know I don’t look at women?”
“Because I watch you all the time. I’ve watched you since I was a little boy. I’ve watched you on airplanes, I’ve watched you in restaurants, I’ve watched you at the beach, and I watched you back there at the intersection. And I have never seen you look. Not once. And I watch you constantly.”
“Well, John, I saw the woman, and so did you. But you have to train yourself to look away immediately when you see someone like that.”
“That’s what I mean, Dad. You look away. And that’s what you tell those guys at your conferences to do. I’ve heard you tell them that for years. That’s why I watch you so closely. I want to see if you will do what what you say a man should do.”
“One of the reasons I look away is that I know you are watching me. That’s why the real test of a man is his character instead of his reputation.”
Then Josh jumped in and said, “Dad, reputation is what people think you are. But character is what you are when no one else is around. That’s what you teach, Dad.”
“That’s right, Josh. Maybe John has never seen me look, but the real test is if I look when no one else is around. You see, God is always around. And He’s looking for men who will obey Him when they’re all by themselves.”
I don’t tell this story because it makes me look good. The fact of the matter is that I have looked. But I am constantly working to discipline myself not to look. The reason I tell that story is that it sent chills up my spine. My kids are constantly watching me, and your kids are constantly watching you.