From One Course To Another

Posted on by Stuart L. Tutt

Man I so wanted my dad to spend time with me growing up. So I took up hunting, fishing and even golf to be able to spend time with him. I wanted to be as good as my dad at playing golf so I practiced everyday all day during the summers, when I wasn’t with my PawPaw. I actually got really good, to the point where I was considering going pro after high school. I loved the game and I loved those few hours spent with my dad.

Moving up almost 30 years into my life..I have a son now. And guess what? He wants to spend time with me. Now granted, due to my divorce I only get to see him twice a week but every moment spent with my little buddy is precious to me. Even those aggravating times when he will not go to sleep because he does want more time with me. We even wear the same color shirts sometimes because he picks them out. I love my son.

On many occasions he has told me “Dad, when I grow up I want to be just like you.” And everytime he says that I tear up…for two reasons. Number one is that he does love and admire me enough to want to be like me. Number two is that I don’t want him to be like me..because to be like me he would have to go through the same lessons I did. He doesn’t know that his dad was an alcoholic and sex addict. What he sees in me is what God has done in me in the last few years of my journey.

Now, please do not get me wrong I AM honored that he wants to be like me but I would prefer he be better than me. Especially in his walk with God.

I want him to strive to be like his Heavenly father. And I don’t want him to have to “dress” like a Christian..you know what I am talking about with the shirts and necklaces. I want people to look at my son and say he is a Christian by his walk not his clothes. I want him to achieve far greater things than I ever dreamed. I want him to be so close to God that there is an aura around him that just draws people to him to find out what it is that makes him unique. And then I want him to smile and say Jesus.

I pray daily that I can be a Godly father that can guide both my son and my daughter to be Godly, to read their Bible daily, to pray daily and love others.

Check out what my brother Chris says about memories at Tee Time with his dad.

Originally post November 1st, 2013.

Published by Stuart L. Tutt

I am just a man who has suffered through a lot, just like most. But now I am seeking God's will for my life. and trying to be a Godly father to my two children.

14 thoughts on “From One Course To Another”

  3. We as dads are so tough on ourselves. We see everything we do wrong, but it makes sense because our kids see everything we do wrong. Your post is a motivation to BE the person I want my kids to grow up to be, or the man I want my girls to marry. In my profession, to be blunt, it’s all talk. With kids, words matter but actions bring it home. I am doing my best to be real to my words. And you’re blog is helping. Thank you.

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  7. You are already on the journey and I pray that God helps us all to become better parents that our kids will be proud of. Cheers

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  8. Yes, our goal should be as parents that we pass along our faith to our children and be the example. But how often we fail at that. I have wondered how we failed our son, since he turned to alcohol early……he almost died of alcohol poisoning his first year at college. But GOD had another plan for him……he is sober now, and walking with the LORD and just graduated from Culinary School. Praise GOD for HIS mercy to see my son through the tough stuff. I have prayed and prayed for him, knowing GOD hears a mother’s or father’s prayers.
    So keep on, keep the dialogue open and love, love and listen, listen. When my son would want to talk to me, I would drop everything…..and listen, even it it happened at midnight. Just be there, love much and tell them that you are always there and will never ever leave. Just as JESUS tells us, that HE is always with us!

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    1. Oh Maxine, you didn’t fail your son. More than likely, as a freshman, he just wanted to fit in and may hung out at the frat house too much. Thank the Lord he is sober now!!
      There’s nothing in the world stronger than a parents prayer for their children, except maybe the prayers of a spouse. Both are powerful because of the love behind them 🙂
      That is something I continually tell them…that I will always be there for them.

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      1. Me too and thank you for your encouraging words. My son is doing well right now, but as always, my prayers continue for him. I know GOD will take good care of him and I trust GOD in that!

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  9. We never want your kids to make the mistakes you did, every son should want to be just like his hero; his dad. To inherit the good, the love for others, for Christ; just like his dad! We’re there to guide, to pray; that God will make his life, better than!

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