Porn Warps Everything


Porn…

For those who do not think they have a problem…be aware. Your brain is being warped.

For those who believe they are not hurting anyone…be aware. Your idea of what hurts is warped.

For those who have been struggling daily to be intimate with the one you love…be aware. Your idea of intimacy has been warped.

For those who wonder why the one you love can no longer please you…be aware. Your idea of what pleasure is being warped.

For those who wonder why your manhood doesn’t do what it is “supposed” to do…be aware. Your brain is warped.

For those who wonder why their loved one is not “in the game”…be aware. It is not you. Their idea of what turns them on is warped.

There are so many issues when dealing with a porn problem in your life.

We try to hide what we have viewed for shame of being caught. If we do get caught we try to play it off as a one time thing or say it will never happen again. Oh…the lies we tell ourselves and the ones we love.

We lose our minds. They are, in fact, being rewired…warped. You can get a free eBook from Covenant Eyes entitled Your Brain On Porn, just click on the title, for more information. You can check out this article by Fight The New Drug as well.

We feel as if we don’t have a problem and yet, as we watch porn those images we see no longer give the desired effect. In order to reach that “high” we must look at more graphic images.

We justify our actions by saying we are not hurting anyone. What a lie we tell ourselves! It is so far from the truth. Go read Cynthia’s post entitled What I Lost When My Husband’s Porn Addiction Won and then tell me we are not hurting anyone.

For a lot of men it starts with viewing a very simple photo of a naked woman. That gets boring to the point where there is no arousal. We then progress to normal sex scenes of penetration. That gets boring as well. We then progress to double penetration, triple penetration, orgies and maybe even brutal fake rape scenes to get aroused.

As we watch porn we get accustomed to clicking to the next scene, the next woman, the next body, the next position because, in order to get aroused and stay aroused enough to masturbate, we have to. And then we wonder why we can’t get it up or keep it up when having actual sex.

The chemicals released in our brain during an orgasm is what bonds us guys. So when we watch porn our chemical release is not bonding us to the one we love but rather a falsehood of what intimacy and pleasure are.

That’s why I always tell men to memorize their loved ones body. We have to rid our mind of the old pathways to pleasure and replace them with good pathways to pleasure. And sex with the one you love is a very powerful pleasure.

What leads us to that orgasm is just as important.

Learn to feel. By that I mean look into your loved ones eyes when they touch you, when they run their hand over your chest or arm and learn the sensual side of sex. Feel the connection.

And unlike the continual click of the mouse take your time. Get to actually know your loved ones body. Be intentional with every touch.

Have sex with your eyes OPEN.

Have sex with the lights ON!

It’s time guys to unravel what has been warped!

Guys, if you want help please feel free to email me. If you want to look into accountability software please click on the Covenant Eyes photo on my blog site, which is an affiliate link.

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8 thoughts on “Porn Warps Everything”

  1. Not only does porn warp minds, it deadens ones soul and interferes with their relationship with God. Spiritual interest wanes along with a decreasing self esteem. What true manliness is involved in selfishly viewing a woman who is being exploited as a replacement for true intimacy with a real woman? Relationally healthy men DON’T use porn!

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  2. Thank you Stu. This is a good start. I know in my husband’s case, porn is the only sex education he received. And because I am the only woman he has physically been with, (when you don’t include the thousands of women he has masturbated with), all he knows about sex, being physically intimate, and pleasing a woman is from porn. He not only needs to unravel what has been warped, but learn how and with what to replace it.

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