I think everyone understands the concept of sowing and reaping. What you plant is what comes up in due season. If you have a garden and plant seeds of corn..well, corn will come up from the seed not okra. If you plant an apple tree in your yard it will not bear an orange, but an apple.
So with that in mind…
If you sow into your heart bad things you will sow out of your heart bad things.
If you have resentment towards your spouse, friend or family member and you continually water that seed of resentment in your heart all that will come out of your heart and mouth is negative things towards them.
If you have anger in your heart and you continue to fan the flame all that will come out towards that person you are angry with are words of anger, which in turn hurts them and starts the cycle in their own heart.
If you have unforgiveness in your heart towards your spouse, friend or family member for something they did or said to you….I believe you end up with all three seeds, unforgiveness, resentment, and anger, all growing together.
Then you have this big cluster of negative emotions sprouting and taking root, to where you truly do not know the reason for your attitude and actions towards that person.
If you plant visions of naked women or men into your mind all that will come out when you look at either sex is…”I wonder what they look like naked” or ” I wonder what they do when they have sex”. So you reaped adultery, for the Word of God says in RED (meaning Jesus himself said it) that if you look upon a women with lust in your heart you have committed adultery with her.
And we wonder why divorce is so rampant in our country, whether Christians or not. Why friendships do not last.
Everyone holds onto their hurts, habits…”my precious” for too long and just like Gollum in The Lord of the Rings films, it turns them into something totally different and sort of corrupts their mind and heart.
But praise God, for He has given us a means to which we can seek forgiveness and have peace. A means to get to the roots of our “issues” and pull them up. But there are steps along the way by renewing our minds and hearts.
We must first have a relationship with God through His Son Jesus Christ, who died on the cross for our sins.
In John 14:6 Jesus said “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.
It is by building that relationship with God that we will want to let go of the things that are weighing us down like the hurt, the anger, resentment and unforgiveness we carry.
We must forgive the person who has wronged us. And when we do so it will lift a heavy burden from our heart.
Mark 11:25 & 26 tell us that if we do not forgive then the Father, who is heaven, will not forgive you of your sins.
We must confess our faults and sins to God.
1 John 1:9 states that if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
We must get into God’s Word for the truth which is critical in the renewing process.
Romans 12:2 tells us not to be conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
1 Peter 1:22 & 23 says since you have purified your souls in obeying the truth through the Spirit in sincere love of the brethren, love one another fervently with a pure heart, having been born again, not of corruptible seed but incorruptible, through the word of God which lives and abides forever.
For me the renewing means to put in the good (scripture) and get rid of the old (bad thoughts, hurts or habits).
And then let it go. Lay it down at the feet of Jesus and do not go back to it.
I know, it is easier said than done…trust me. I held on to resentment and anger for decades before I allowed God to truly start moving in my life and He used the 12 step program at Celebrate Recovery to get me to that point.
Don’t be like Gollum…be like Christ.