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One of the things, I believe, that held me back emotionally growing up was the saying “Boys Don’t Cry!”

We as a family, were all outside cleaning up the yard…well my parents were…my sister and I were playing. That’s what six and three-year olds do. 

But anyway…as we were playing in the clovers I ended up being stung by a bee. Well, as with most six-year olds that freaking hurt and I yelled. Mom came running to find out what was going on. She pulls the stinger out for me because at that age I didn’t know what to do. 

Here I am crying because it hurt and my dad comes up to me and goes stop crying, “boys don’t cry.” So, I stifled my cry and wipe away the tears because dad said so. 

I heard that saying a lot growing up over the years.

I hear this same saying ALL the time, even now, from parents and you know what? It ticks me off!

You want to know why? Because boys do cry! 

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Boys get their feelings​ hurt, they get their bodies hurt and they have emotions. They have a right to cry because all of these factors are a biological response to what is happening to them at that moment. 

Since rededicating my life to the Lord several years back I actually cry now. Sometimes I even apologize to people for being so emotional now. But you know what? It shows that I care, that I empathize, that I hurt, that I feel sorry when I hurt someone else’s feelings, and that I love. 

I accept my tears now, because I know by trying to stifle them I am also trying to hide how God made me. 

I understand that there are times when tears are just a means to get attention. Heck my son still does it. But please parents do not say to your son that boys don’t cry.

Allow them to have feelings and show their emotions and their hurt. Allow them to be and become who God created them to be.

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