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Very good article. I just had to share! There is just so much in here that I agree with especially this statement:

It’s time to stop ignoring porn as a topic. It’s time to take back America from the grip of porn addiction, one family at a time. It begins with you taking a stand in your own home, with open discussions as a family. You may even need help breaking free yourself; but seeking help is better than hiding in shame as your family implodes around you.

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By Joel Hesch – BarbWire guest contributor

Although it’s the least discussed media topic, porn is systematically infiltrating and killing America (and statistically your family too!). Few realize just how large a role porn or other forms of sex addiction plays in the breakdown of families. In this digital age, porn isn’t just instantly accessible, it’s the silent killer of families. Porn addiction leaves countless men and women desperate and unaware of where to turn for help. This silent enemy leaves families broken in a wake of despair and destruction after the fall of fathers and husbands. The results are a lineage of addiction and infidelity passed down to innocent children.

Let’s get real for a moment. Porn is the topic no political party or media wants to talk about, but it’s silently killing America one family at a time, possibly even yours.

Porn is a gateway drug that causes ordinary men (and women) to do abnormal things. Our nationwide survey reveals that two-thirds of men view porn at least monthly. This same rate of men risk losing their jobs by looking at porn at work – with one in three expected to get fired due to viewing porn on company time. Even more won’t be able to find a job requiring a polygraph exam because they will have to admit to having viewed deviant sexual videos, such as sex with minors. One-third of men will also take their porn driven fantasy to the real world by having an extramarital affair. We won’t even discuss how porn is the fuel that spurs rape because it conditions men to view women simply as objects of sexual pleasure.

We are quickly losing this next generation to porn and dooming them to divorce, affairs, and hiding in isolation and shame as they can’t stop the cycle of repeatedly turning to the sanctuary of porn driven sexual fantasies that no real person can measure up to. The destruction of porn begins early because 78% of boys are exposed to porn before they are even old enough to drive. More than 4 in 10 men under the age of thirty think they may be addicted to porn, but have no idea where to turn for help because it remains the topic no one will discuss.

Why won’t the media address porn? Certainly the mainstream media is deathly afraid of offending this generation’s outspoken guardians of sexual revolution that anything with anyone goes. Movies spiced with sex sells and porn is the biggest money maker on the Internet. Don’t rock that boat.

But I believe that there is a deeper issue. America has lost it moral compass because we don’t feel we can suggest that looking at porn can be unhealthy because we have tasted the forbidden fruit. We don’t want fingers pointed back at us. We are deathly afraid of being asked if we have viewed porn ourselves. In fact, our survey shows that 97% of all men admit that they have viewed porn (the other 3% likely lied), and most men and a growing number of women sneak a peek at porn at least monthly.

But if we keep caring more about protecting our dirty little secrets, we will keep reaping what we sow. Today, 79% of our young men are already turning to porn every month. This is enhanced by parents happily giving them smart phones without teaching them about the dangers of porn right at their fingertips. We can’t keep letting Hollywood and the porn industry form your child’s worldview and expectations about sex. It’s not a pretty picture. Addictions, divorce and marital dissatisfaction are at all-time highs.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not a finger pointer. I am a former sex addict myself. It nearly cost me everything. I’m not even on a warpath or crusade to outlaw porn. Rather, my mission in life is to help those who want help breaking and remaining free from the false forms of intimacy produced by porn and unbridled sexual fantasy

Porn may be here to stay, but that doesn’t mean it should remain hidden under the covers. It also doesn’t mean we don’t warn of the true dangers and harm it can and often does produce. What America needs right now is true freedom to talk about porn and the fantasies it produces that leads to untamed sexual desires where anything with anyone goes. It must begin with open and honest dialog. Let’s not doom our next generation to addiction through silence or ignorance.

It’s time to stop ignoring porn as a topic. It’s time to take back America from the grip of porn addiction, one family at a time. It begins with you taking a stand in your own home, with open discussions as a family. You may even need help breaking free yourself; but seeking help is better than hiding in shame as your family implodes around you.

As more and more of us admit that there’s a real problem with porn, we can start restoring America, and maybe, just maybe, the media and political leaders will wake up along with us.

Joel Hesch is an author, attorney, and professor. Joel founded Proven Men Ministries after experiencing lasting victory over his 20-year struggle with porn and sex addiction. Proven Men is a nonprofit organization with a goal of helping 1 million men and their families break free from bondage to porn or other addictive sexual behaviors. Having established a proven path for sexual integrity, Joel has written a book, 12-week study, and a set of comprehensive leader’s guides. Visit his website at http://www.ProvenMen.org.

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