I have to wonder are we as parents neglecting to do what the Bible says?
Here are my thoughts…agree or not that’s ok.
In Proverbs 22:6 the Bible tells us to Train up a child in the way he/she should go; and when he/she is old, he/she will not depart from it. And in Ephesians 6:4 it tells us Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in training and admonition of the Lord. Both verses go hand in hand. We are to train our children to love and respect the Lord. And by doing so when they get older and the weight of the world or peer pressure is knocking on the door they will not depart from the training.
Are we teaching our children how to pray or are we simply doing the now I lay me down to sleep prayer? Don’t get me wrong here..for with little ones that is a great place to start but as they become more in tune with the hurts of friends and others I believe we should teach them to pray for others. Ask for healing for friends in the hospital. To pray for mommy, daddy, brother and sister.
Are we helping them read the Bible and to understand what it says and mean?
Are we teaching them the difference between right and wrong based on scripture or society?
Or are we so caught up in our own ways that we are actually doing it completely wrong?
Are we as parents earnestly taking our time to train in these areas? Think, for a moment, about how you were taught.
Are we as parents so affected by the stressors of life that we say terrible words to our spouses? And it really doesn’t matter on this one whether you are married, separated or divorced because that person you are or were married to is and always will be in your life if you have children. Treat them with respect and honor at all times around each other and the children. For the words you speak your children will use.
If they ask questions as to why so and so gets to do this..why can’t I. Do we explain it thoroughly by taking the time to pull out the Bible, show them where the verse is at? Or do we just say because it’s in the Bible? Or do we just say because I say so? (If you saying that please stop because you are not training them you are just being selfish in not sitting down for 5 minutes and explain it)
Or better yet, if divorced sometimes they are like well, I can do it over at ______ house, why can’t I do it here. For the divorced or separated it is a tough call, for even in marriage parents have different ideas on what the children can and can not do. If one is living a different lifestyle than the Godly one you are trying to live the kids will understand when you explain why you do not want them doing certain things. And communication is the key especially if a child is being grounded at one home. I feel they should be grounded at the other home the same way depending on the circumstances surrounding the grounding.
The next one is a doozy because of the nature of the topic….sex.
Now training them on this one does not mean showing them for heaven sakes. But our children need to hear the truth about sex from the ones they trust the most, before they hear about it from the world. They do not need instructional videos shown to them either. They should be taught that is a beautiful thing between a husband and wife. They need to know it is ordained by God for the marriage bed and not before.
Are you separated, though still legally married, and having sex with someone? If you have children in your home while doing this you are in essence going contrary to the Word of God. You are training your children that sex outside of marriage is ok.
We can no longer, as Christian parents, neglect our duties to properly train our children in the ways of the Lord and His standards for living. We must spend quality time with our children reading the Word of God and explaining it to them and not just assume they “get” it. We must pray with our children. Teach them to pray out loud. We all know that saying a silent prayer is tough when our brain is racing 90 to nothing. But by praying out loud we kind of shut off our mind to all else but the prayer.
I pray with mine every night I have them, unless one falls asleep while the other is praying. And I will tell you I have shed many a tear over the heart-felt prayers my children have prayed. Powerful when your little girl prays God let my daddy be a Godly father so he can teach us to live like you want us to. They listen to my prayers as well. They know I pray for them nightly because they hear me do it.
We must teach them that all people, no matter their ethnic background, are created in the image of God and that God loves them just as much as He loves us. To me this is of vital importance. How will our children reach out to others if they do not see them as God does?