Accountability is scriptural folks.
Many use this verse as a reference for marriage, heck I have, because it is truthful. But it applies to an accountability partnership as well.
And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
The him in this verse is the devil and the schemes he uses to draw us from God. The two are you and your accountability partner. Scripture states where two or more are gathered I am there in the midst of them (Matthew 18:20) so that makes the threefold cord.
Confess your faults one to another, and pray for one another, that ye may be healed.
In James it is telling us to confess our faults to each other and pray for each other that we might be healed. Being an accountability partner means sharing your faults while the other is sharing theirs. Pray for each other. Love each other. Be there for each other!
Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye who are spiritual restore such a one in the spirit of meekness, considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.
The Galatians one is a hard one. Restore with the spirit of meekness. That means you, being a sinner as well, should not be proud and say this is how I overcame. God overcame..you were just willing to let Him work. Remember pride comes before a fall.
And as such, you should always point to Christ and what He has done and what He showed you. Yes, be thankful and honest but not proud.
Being an accountable to someone is a very heartbreaking but necessary thing in recovery in my eyes. And by heartbreaking I mean you are listening to a brother or sister (woman accountable to woman and men to men) bring a dark sin to light. How it started, what has transpired and how it has affected their life, their marriage and their walk with God (or lack there of). You will cry when you hear their story. You will cry when you share yours. It is heartbreaking but heart-healing at the same time.
It means being there for that person day or night, seven days a week. They need to know beyond a shadow of doubt they can call on you. They need to know that you will BE there to talk them through the temptation they are having. They need to know you ARE praying for them. They need to know that you LOVE them, that you actually care about their recovery and their walk with God.
Never ever let them even think you are disappointed in them. Even if they fall 80 times in a week. Sinner goes for everyone. No one is exempt from that; it’s just as a Christian we are A sinner saved by the grace of God. Never go “Awe dude, not again!”..for how many time did you sin today. A sin is a sin in the eyes of God..only man grades them on a curve. They need words of encouragement! They need to know their IS hope!